so i'm doing my lil scrolling thing yesterday when this creator, Dennis the Yappologist, says to me (and 125 thousand other people who've liked this video):
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β"there's a point in life in which, if you're a high performer, people literally stop clapping for you. they stop saying good job. they stop giving you the accolades that you deserve, because they simply expect it out of you."
a commenter said "time for new friends."
THAT PART !!! π«°
i couldn't agree more. i think that's a sign that people around you aren't pushing you enough. hellooooo, you've outgrown your space.
you've been at a party, right, and suddenly the fog lifts and you're like omg i'm not having a good time here because i hate these people! and i hate who i am when i'm here with these people!
well pookie, if the people around you aren't lifting your spirits anymore, maybe they're just used to you.
ICK !!!
who wants to be someone who folks are just "used to"...? def not me. i want to be someone who excites, inspires, provokes. but when people get too comfortable they can start to dull your light with their expectations.
last week i was deep in my self-help podcast spiral (we listen and we don't judge) when i stumbled on this episode about "using a second self to promote self-transformation" and send me spiraling, it did.
soooo you're telling me reinvention isn't just aesthetic rollout for the bit but actually necessary for my growth?
tea. βοΈ
the disco balls and assless chaps of the renaissance era had to step aside so the cowboy carter era of american flags and assless chaps could enter.
tea... and AOTY. βοΈπΊπΈπ
life hack: trick the world into seeing you fresh again so they'll notice the sparkle that's being taken for granted.
my point is the most iconic reinvention eventually becomes the baseline. we adapt, we normalize, we stop applauding, we adapt.
you saw the breakfast club interview with coco jones where charlemagne calls out def jam for not caring enough to send her debut album ahead of her interview? π isn't it a weird paradox to consistently be a high performer surrounded by people who expect excellence as default, but don't really see you fr?
all i'm saying is sometimes the villain in your story is just clandestine passivity which isn't menacing until the same ol' familiar faces grind you to uninspired stagnation.
lowkey, my astrology readings lately have been SCREAMING the same thing. π«
my nodal return in aries/libra is this year and i'm entering my personal year 4 in a master year 22. basically the cosmos is pushing me toward an identity shift, saying "babe, if they can't see you anymore, become someone new." fucking yikes !!!
so for me, more than just needing new friends or a new look, i need intentional reinvention for survival. because when your efforts start feeling like background noise, i think the only option is to evolve into someone folks can't ignore.
anywayyyy, i'm curiousβ what version of yourself would make even YOU do a double-take? hit reply and lmk. <3
til next time β¨,
// about idk yet //
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"idk yet" is a safe space for the chronically independent. a little something for those of us figuring it out as we go. this is issue #2 of my occasional thoughts on self-discovery, reinvention, and the art of being seen on your own terms.
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